I just got back from a month-long trip in Taiwan.
My very first meeting was with my peer coaches where we started with celebration – what we want to call out and share with the group.
It took me by surprise. Like going back to school right after the summer break, I felt unprepared.
I thought hard about what I’ve accomplished since the last call, and I got NOTHING.
I had not made any progress for my business – No connection/coaching calls. No emails. No slack messages. No classes. No blog posts.
Because, in the past three weeks, I completely unplugged myself.
I felt embarrassed.
Then, I caught myself – being able to spend a month of time with my family every year IS part of my definition of success!
And, just like that, I smiled.
When we think about celebration, oftentimes, our minds go directly to work-related achievements such as a promotion or delivering a big project or signing a new client. Don’t get me wrong. Those are important milestones from the society point of view. They imply more recognition, more responsibilities, and potentially more money. It’s great to celebrate them.
Yet, I also like us to celebrate the internal milestones that we define for ourselves. Such as
- When we build our muscles/environments/relationships to enable us to be successful in our own definition.
- When we take risks and fail forward at a faster pace.
- When we respect our own values, hold our power, and mak decisions that’s not fear-based.
- When we create over coast.
- When we spend quality time and be present with our loved ones.
- When we take care of ourselves both physically and mentally.
- When we recognize our own growth and be at peace over relying on external recognition.
Therefore, I’m writing this post to CELEBRATE!
- I reached an important milestone in my definition of success – a month-long break with my family.
- I quieted the hyper achiever in me to allow myself to just BE. No reflection. No what’s next. No doing. All the SHOULDs faded away. It’s just me with what’s important to me.
- I was fully present with my family. Even if it’s hiking in 100+ degree weather. Even if it’s watching no-brainer TV. Even if it’s brushing hair off the family dog.
- Oh and of course, have I mentioned the tasty Taiwanese food that I’ve devoured during the trip. 😋
What’s your definition of success?
What are you celebrating?
Feel free to reply to me. I read every response!
Love,
Wen
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