I thought I was fully committed.
Every morning, I sat at my desk, coffee in hand, reading my personal declaration out loud:
“I am the best coach for immigrant women.”
I believed it. I felt it. I wanted it.
But one day, a simple question stopped me in my tracks:
“Where in your life do you feel dissatisfied?”
I didn’t have to think long.
My business revenue wasn’t growing as fast as I had hoped.
I chalked it up to market trends, social media algorithms, and maybe even bad timing. But then, the second question hit harder:
“What’s the declared or undeclared agreement that you’ve failed to honor?”
And suddenly, I saw the truth.
The Silent Ways I Had Been Holding Back
I had made a powerful declaration, but was I truly living it?
The honest answer? Not fully.
- I hesitated to invite people into my coaching, worried they’d see me as too salesy.
- I let self-doubt whisper, “Who do you think you are?” and stopped myself before even trying.
- I prioritized my comfort—the fear of rejection, the need to be liked—over my deeper commitment to serve.
It stung to admit.
Here I was, helping my clients step into their power, yet I was playing small in my own way.
And the craziest part?
This wasn’t the first time.
I’d fallen into this pattern before—wanting something deeply but hesitating at the moment of action. The realization hit like a wave.
Integrity Isn’t Perfection—It’s a Choice
I had two options:
I could keep telling myself I was “trying my best” while avoiding the discomfort of growth.
Or I could restore my integrity and truly own my commitment—even when it felt scary.
I chose the second.
That very day, I made three promises to myself:
I will invite people into my coaching without hesitation—because my work changes lives.
I will trust others to make their own decisions instead of deciding for them by holding back.
I will fully embody being the best coach for immigrant women—showing up at the right place, at the right time, for the right people.
It wasn’t about suddenly being fearless.
It was about choosing my mission over my fear.
Your Turn – Are You Fully Owning Your Commitment?
We all have moments where we hesitate, hold back, or let self-doubt steer the wheel.
But integrity isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about aligning who you say you are with who you choose to be—every single day.
So now, it’s your turn:
Where in your life are you shying away from fully owning your commitment?
I’d love to hear your thoughts—reply to this email. I read every one of them!
Loving you,
Wen