You know those moments when something good finally happens?
The win, the breakthrough, the compliment you’ve been working toward?
And instead of celebrating… you downplay it.
“Oh, it was nothing.”
“They were just being nice.”
“I don’t want to make a big deal out of it.”
I see this all the time in brilliant women. Especially those who’ve been taught that humility means making yourself smaller.
But here’s the truth:
Shrinking your light doesn’t make you more relatable. It makes you less trustworthy.
When you dismiss your own wins, people start to question what’s real.
They don’t know what to believe.
And energetically—you’re signaling that you don’t believe in your own impact either.
That gap? It weakens your leadership.
In a recent session, my client had just received powerful public praise. She knew it landed. She felt it. And then… she spiraled.
“Argh…this is uncomfortable.”
“I don’t want to feel like I’m bragging.”
“How do I respond without shrinking myself?”
I told her: This isn’t about arrogance. It’s about congruence.
Can you let what’s true—about your growth, your power, your impact—actually land in your body?
Not perform it. Not deflect it.
Just receive it.
Because when you receive it, fully, you give others permission to trust you.
And to believe in what’s possible for themselves too.
This doesn’t mean you need to post every compliment or make yourself the center of attention.
But it does mean you stop apologizing for your brilliance.
You stop editing out your growth.
You stop lowering your energy to make others more comfortable.
Your light isn’t the problem. Your hiding is.
So the next time someone reflects something powerful about you—pause.
Let it in.
Say “thank you.”
Breathe it all the way down to your toes.
And remember:
Every time you fully receive your own magic, you become more of the leader you were always meant to be.
Loving you,
Wen
P.S. Ready to stop minimizing your growth and start leading from your full presence? Email me. Let’s talk.