There was a time when tension lived in my jaw.
When proving myself felt like oxygen.
When rest felt unsafe.
I believed that if I strategized hard enough, stayed late enough, and controlled enough—then I’d earn the outcome.
As an engineering leader, I made it work.
Planning and control became my superpowers.
And for a while, they got me the results I wanted.
Until they didn’t.
Even when I did everything “right,” the outcome slipped out of reach.
Four years ago, I lost my job—despite doing everything by the book.
Then the pattern repeated in my coaching business.
A client would ghost.
A talk wouldn’t land.
A door I worked so hard to open quietly closed.
I kept asking myself: What else can I try? What else can I control?
One quiet evening, something shifted.
I sat on the edge of my bed—tired, capable, and strangely hollow.
And it hit me:
I can do my best. But I can’t force the outcome.
That grip I had on results? It was draining my joy, my energy, and my presence.
So I brought it to my coach. And I tried something new.
I called it “Evidence File – Miracles.”
Not hustle evidence.
Not proof that I earned the win.
But moments where life met me halfway—without forcing, pushing, or over-performing.
At first, it felt strange. But once I opened my eyes, the miracles came:
🌿 A photographer offered a free engagement shoot—right when I needed one
🌿 A prospect I’d barely coached was already raving about me at the table
🌿 Mt. Rainier cleared its fog at the exact spot we hoped to see the view
🌿 I was invited to coach at ELC Annual conference—without anticipating it
🌿 A discovery call landed on my calendar where I was referred on Reddit. I didn’t even know who to thank
These weren’t flashy wins. But they were unmistakably aligned.
So I started adding to the folder:
Screenshots. Photos. Little voice notes.
Moments that whispered: “You’re supported.”
And over time, my body started to believe it too.
Now, when fear rises—or when something doesn’t go the way I hoped—I go back to that folder. (I wrote this post to remind myself again!)
Not to bypass the hard.
But to remember the truth:
✨ I don’t need to grip my way to growth.
✨ I don’t need to earn rest.
✨ Letting go isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom.
So I’ll ask you the same question I ask myself every week:
What miracle can you spot today?
It’s probably already here.
You just have to train your eyes—and your nervous system—to see it.
And if you’re ready to build your business or career from a new kind of power—the quiet, trusting kind—let’s talk.
Loving you,
Wen