Who Do You Need To Be To Create What You Truly Desire

We live in the world of constant choosing and prioritizing. Time and energy are limited.

It’s hard for us to be present wholeheartedly in one place doing one thing. Oftentimes, we feel guilty no matter what choices we make. 

Especially at work, we often think about the “tradeoffs” – speed, quality, and cost, we don’t get all three. We are taught we ought to choose. 

We feel like we have to choose either work or family. 

We choose to follow our passion making little money, or sell our souls for a few years to get rich in return.

Or worse, we feel the need to choose either career growth or health.

After all, Christmas doesn’t come everyday. Life is about making hard choices.

These rules were all made up by humans probably in the last 200 years. Yet, we believe in it like it is the truth. 

We make up and live in the “either or” world. However, our heart’s deepest desire is in the “yes, and”

Yes, we want to have a successful career AND spend time with family wholeheartedly.
Yes, we want to be in the top position AND work normal hours.
Yes, we want to work in a job that pays well AND fulfill us.
Yes, we want to be healthy mentally, physically AND be wealthy.

The good news is since the “either or” rules are all made up. We have the power to recreate the rules that work for us. 

It might sound too idealistic, you said.

I believe in it because I see it happens for my clients again and again.

It all starts with “who do you need to BE to CREATE what you truly desire”. Without coming from a place of not enough or comparison, what can you do to expand yourself?

• If you want to be in the top position without burning out, you need to be the leader who creates leaders and raises everyone up. 
• If you want to work in a job that pays well and fulfills you, you need to understand what fulfills you and what pays well means in your perspective.
• If you want to have a successful career that also enables you to be with your family wholeheartedly, you need to understand your definition of successful and what support you need from work to make both happen.
• If you want to be healthy mentally, physically, and spiritually, you need to be the person who spends time exercising, meditating, and eating well instead of spending 70 hours at work.
• If you want to be wealthy, you need to be grateful for what you already have. This way, you’re wealthy NOW and continue to increase your wealth instead of waiting for another 10 years.
• If you want to have a great intimate relationship, you need to be the person to make yourself happy first so you attract people who you can grow happily together with.
• If you want to be the best dad/mom/partner/friend, you need to be present, and believe the time is always well spent with those you care about.

You see, we are the creator of our lives. Once we are ready to BE that person to CREATE what we truly desire, we are no longer required to choose between “either or”. 

We are open to all the possible “yes and” in our world. We get to consciously create the life we want.

So, who do you need to be, today, to create what you truly desire? 😉

Love,
Wen

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