“Wen, are you thinking about going back to tech as an engineering leader?” Two ex-coworkers asked me this question last week. When I first started coaching full-time, my coach told me it takes a minimum of 3 years to “make it” in coaching. “Don’t even try it full-time if you need to get your bills […]

I screwed up badly in a meeting a few weeks ago. It felt so uncomfortable, as if someone punched me in my stomach. I felt so shameful. My mind had me believe, “I’m a terrible coach.” I wanted to hide from my next client, doubting what value I could bring to her. I wanted to […]

When I worked with a coach for the very first time, it felt like MAGIC! My coach knew exactly what questions to ask to pull the answers out of me. He sensed the most subtle shifts in me that I didn’t even notice. He helped me see my limiting beliefs that had run my entire […]

“I don’t get it. Sometimes, I feel like I can achieve anything I want with ease. Other times, I feel paralyzed by fears and doubts, feeling completely stuck. And now I’m in that stuck mode for years,” Amy told me. “This is completely normal,” I assured her. Her words reminded me of a Native American […]

“I become a hermit in front of people. I feel like an imposter,” Sindy said to me yesterday. “What thoughts go through your mind when you start to experience imposter syndrome?” I asked. “I don’t know.” She paused a little and then spoke again. “Like, shit, what do I say? Am I going to be […]