There was a time when tension lived in my jaw.When proving myself felt like oxygen.When rest felt unsafe. I believed that if I strategized hard enough, stayed late enough, and controlled enough—then I’d earn the outcome. As an engineering leader, I made it work.Planning and control became my superpowers.And for a while, they got me […]

You know those moments when something good finally happens?The win, the breakthrough, the compliment you’ve been working toward? And instead of celebrating… you downplay it.“Oh, it was nothing.”“They were just being nice.”“I don’t want to make a big deal out of it.” I see this all the time in brilliant women. Especially those who’ve been […]

After I shared about my record revenue month, a few people reached out and asked: “How did you do it?” Especially now—when so many people are cautious about spending. Here’s my honest answer. It came down to three things: 1. I slowed down to coach really well. Not by following a script, but by deeply […]

You’ve done the work. You’ve shown up, stayed late, strategized, analyzed, pushed. Yet, you still don’t see the outcome you were hoping for. So now you’re sitting with that uncomfortable question:What if I just let it go? And almost immediately, another voice chimes in:But wouldn’t that mean I’m giving up? This moment—this tension—is something I […]

“What would it look like if you signed up for the unlimited yoga pass?” my coach asked. My body flinched. “It’s $169 a month,” I replied. “That’s way more than I’m comfortable spending.” There it was—my old pattern: Ease into it. Be cautious. Don’t spend too much. And I knew exactly where it came from. […]