“I become a hermit in front of people. I feel like an imposter,” Sindy said to me yesterday. “What thoughts go through your mind when you start to experience imposter syndrome?” I asked. “I don’t know.” She paused a little and then spoke again. “Like, shit, what do I say? Am I going to be […]

I was not the best student for most of my life. In fact, there were times when I might have been one of the worst. There was a lot of shame around not being admitted to the best schools or joining the most famous companies. This led me to want to prove people wrong—to show […]

‘My mom died too young,’ I confessed, holding the microphone with trembling hands during a 5-day program designed to challenge my beliefs. The memory is vivid. I was in college, studying for midterms, when I received a call from my department –  my mom was in the hospital. I rushed home, then to her side, […]

Recently, I found myself resisting a second scheduled meeting with a CTO. On paper, she seemed to have achieved everything on her own. This perception, unusual for me, prompted further reflection. I realized it was my insecurity speaking, given her apparent success. Subconsciously, I had labeled her as closed-minded and overly independent. With that thought, […]

‘I’m sorry for the late response.’ As I typed these words in an email, I paused and stared at them, then, I deleted them. They didn’t feel genuine because, in reality, I wasn’t sorry. In fact, I felt great for not responding immediately! Last week, I was on a retreat, intentionally disconnected from texts, emails, […]