What do you want?
Pulse for a second to think about it.
Many people don’t have that clarity.
It’s uncomfortable to be in the space of ‘I don’t know,’ yet it can be the beginning of a deeper understanding of self.
One thing that’s easier is to know what we don’t want.
When we flip them, we get a good sense of what we do want (like magic 😉).
I can’t think of a better way to learn about what we don’t want than reading ‘The Top 5 regrets of the Dying,’ a book written by Bronnie Ware.
The top 5 regrets of the dying are:
- I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
- I wish I hadn’t worked so hard
- I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings
- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
- I wish I had let myself be happier
When I read the book 9 years ago, I checked all of them.
Ouch! The realization really hurt. (And it’s such a wake-up call)
I was working at a corporate job, feeling unfulfilled and unhappy.
Back then, I didn’t even know—all these regrets were there because of my choices!
In other words, I created my regrets, which means I can also make different choices.
Since then, I embarked on a long journey of making choices that are more aligned with who I want to be.
It’s simple but not easy, and I will share more about this in my future post.
In my next post, I’ll dive into the first regret and how I have evolved in the past 9 years.
How many regrets might you see yourself having if you don’t do anything?
What stands out the most for you?
Love,
Wen