In a connection call with a coach a while ago, she gave me this challenge: “You are forbidden to ask the HOW questions for a week.” I was speechless. But, I knew it IS exactly what I need. As an engineering leader, I’m trained to look for and solve problems. It’s my second nature. It […]
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Don’t Get Rid of Imposter Syndrome. Get Good At It!
In my first ever coaching session with a stranger, I didn’t even finish the planned hour-long session. He’s an elder who responded to my pro bono coaching offer. He wanted to talk about the pain he’s going through with aging. My heart sank and my mouth was dry. I knew nothing about aging, which made […]
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I got ghosted this week by two people. I also got a last-minute reschedule request on the day of the meeting. This happens almost every week. Sometimes, I initiated the gathering. Sometimes, others reach out to schedule the meetings. I used to feel undervalued when no-shows happened. The thoughts like “I’m not good enough for […]
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I kicked off a research project to interview 1st-gen immigrant female leaders because I like to help female leaders like me to advance their career with more ease and authenticity. I want to understand their experience, challenges, doubts, fears, and dreams. My first interviewer is one of my best friends. We had a wonderful conversation. […]
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When I connect with people, there is this one common thing that people want: SUCCESS. When I dig deeper to what makes them successful, I find that many people’s measurements of success are external-motivated. We compare the worst version of ourselves to the best version of others we see on social media We think about […]
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One thing I love to do is helping people see their dreams clearly. We play the game of what they dare to dream in 3 years of time. We travel to the future to witness their life at best. And I help them to dream even bigger. I have them describe what would be the […]
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I was laid off in April. I’ve been through many layoffs but it’s the first time I was on the chopping board. My biggest challenge is tying my self-worth to my productivity and results. Work has become the best way to validate myself. I got my reputation from working hard and delivering quality work ahead […]
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This is the second time I write my second post. I spent 3 hours writing for the first time. I wrote about how I encountered coaching and the profound impact it had on me at the time. It’s daunting to reflect on it since it’s such a transformative experience. I worry that I under-sell the […]
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