“I know I am valuable but it’s hard to have any energy to focus on myself” Amy said in our coaching conversation. “Why?” I asked.  “I am the type of person who cares for everyone. I’m the cheerleader and the helper in the family.” She answered. Then, I said to her, “so, everyone gets the […]

Our brain loves to categorize things right or wrong, good or bad, black or white. We can easily make 35,000 decisions a day. How amazing is that! Therefore, labeling is a helpful habit – to make automatic decisions to reduce the cognitive load. Yet, labeling things can also prevent us from seeing the broader (and […]

Are you a human BEING? Or a human DOING? From my own experience and many people I’ve coached, I would say – we are a human DOING probably more than 90% of the time. We live in a society where we tie our values to constant output and achievements. We often feel guilty or feel […]

Almost everyone I talk to experiences the FEAR of FAILURE. People often say it’s one of the main reasons that holds them back. Many ask me if I can help them to live without fear.  I always tell them – no.  Because being able to feel fear is an important part of being human. It’s […]

I woke up at 5:45am today. This was significant because somehow I had the mental block that I couldn’t wake up before 6am. With the arbitrary limitation, I told myself stories like – I would be too tired to show up powerfully in coaching sessions.  Or, I wouldn’t have the energy to sustain the day. […]