In a coaching conversation, Sam brought up his challenge – as a first-time manager, he has a problem with being direct with his reports because he wants to 𝐛𝐞 𝐧𝐢𝐜𝐞. I asked him why he wanted to be nice. He said he doesn’t want to be seen as a jerk. And, he feels the need […]

One of the most common fears for people is the fear of rejections. Me too. That’s why I didn’t ask for things.  It worked well until my coach woke me up when I didn’t even ask my own family to be at my wedding. It’s so powerful that I wrote a post about The Power of […]

“I would like to know how to keep myself motivated?” My client brought this topic up the other day.  She has been stepping up to lead a women engineering community at work for a while.  I asked why she does it since it’s outside of her work responsibilities. Upon answering the question, her face lit […]

I recorded a video yesterday and put it on social. I haven’t been this raw in a while and experienced what Brené Brown calls “vulnerability hangover” today. This is why, I want to share the video with you. Fears, insecurity, and judgements still come up for me. ALL THE TIME. I still don’t embrace them […]

“I know I am valuable but it’s hard to have any energy to focus on myself” Amy said in our coaching conversation. “Why?” I asked.  “I am the type of person who cares for everyone. I’m the cheerleader and the helper in the family.” She answered. Then, I said to her, “so, everyone gets the […]